A woman’s opinions were divided after the internet asked if her daughter deserved to be “warned” by her sister for dancing around and telling her she needed to be grown up.
In a post on Mumsnet on Thursday, the mother, who uses the username PillowFeather, asked if she was too soft on her 9-year-old daughter, after her sister scolded the girl for being immature.
In the post, she explained that while her sister was at her home for a visit, her daughter was “splendid” in the living room, irritating her aunt. At one point, her sister just gave up and said to her daughter, “Don’t come and jump around me!”
After being reprimanded, the girl stopped dancing and ran to her room crying, and when her mother went upstairs to check on her, she yelled at her to go away.
When the woman asked her sister what had happened, the latter replied, “She was doing this stupid dance around me and I can’t be with her, she must grow up.”
The poster admitted that her daughter is completely immature for her age and said, “My niece is not helping me [sister’s daughter] She is the same age but mature for her age.”
The woman said that while her niece currently spends the holidays hanging out with friends, her daughter spends it at home because she doesn’t have any friends.
According to a study by the American Psychological Association, social isolation is associated with depression, poor sleep quality, impaired executive function, accelerated cognitive decline, impaired cardiovascular function, and impaired immunity at every stage of life.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) says mental health is an “important part of children’s overall health and well-being,” affecting the way children think, feel, and act. It plays a role in how children deal with stress as well as in their relationship with others.
According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 9.4% of children, 5.8 million, have anxiety and 8.9%, 5.5 million, have behavioral problems. Behavior problems are most common in children between the ages of 6 and 11.
Among the 359 comments in the thread, some users believed that her sister had no right to treat her daughter this way in her home, while others found it strange that a 9-year-old girl loves to dance in her living room.
One user, supersonicginandtonic, said, “To be honest if I went around my sisters house to see her and my niece was dancing all over the place, it would annoy me too.” Hm2020 said: “I think your sister needs to grow up and remember that she is a child and she is in said child’s house.”
Rosebell commented, “Your sister looks awful.. you have [daughter] He was dancing, what’s wrong with that? I had actually told my sister not to be such an obscenity and to apologize for her [daughter]. I won’t invite her again while I’m working [daughter] There was too.”
“She’s not 19, they’re all worried about dancing,” Esaidno said. “Seriously I’d be more concerned about the mature kid than the immature kid.” VerySmallClanger added, “I think your sister was not very nice! If this was one of my nieces, I’d just talk to them about calming down, not surprising them.”
Another user, Kanaloa said: “For a [neurotypical] 9 year olds I would expect them to be able to communicate more conveniently – sitting, chatting, showing toys/crafts etc to a visitor. Jumping and acting goofy is the kind of thing I would expect from a 2/3 year old excited to have a visitor, not a 9 year old. “
BungleandGeorge added, “I think your sister was needlessly angry, she needs to work on her tolerance and maturity if you catch a 9-year-old dancing. Your daughter seems a little more sensitive but maybe that’s just her personality.”
FrancescaContini wrote: “She is nine years old. Let her dance as much as she wants. Your sister looks miserable.”
Summersnearlygone said, “Your daughter should feel safe and protected in her home, in which case she didn’t. That would worry me.”
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